Want to Boost Your Self-Esteem? Throw Away Someone Else’s Trash. Just Because.

Want to Boost Your Self-Esteem? Throw Away Someone Else’s Trash. Just Because.

(Article written by Gretchen Rubin, www.happiness-project.com, article originally posted on Linkedin.com and can be found here)

Self-esteem is a topic that has generated a fair amount of controversy over the last few decades, but one thing seems clear: you don’t get healthy self-esteem from constantly telling yourself how great you are, or even from other people telling you how great you are.

You do boost your self-esteem when you keep a difficult resolution, meet a challenge, solve a problem, learn a skill, or cross something unpleasant off your to-do list. And one of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to help someone else. Do good, feel good.

I had a friend who went through a period of tremendous rejection: she was fired from her job, she was rejected from a graduate program, and her boyfriend broke up with her. Everything worked out fine, and I asked her how she got through such a tough time. She said, “I was practically addicted to doing good deeds. It was the only way I could make myself feel like I wasn’t a total loser.”

I recently performed a very small good deed that gave me a boost: I threw away someone else’s trash. I’ve always been careful to throw away my own litter, but it never occurred to me to do anything about random litter lying around.

The other day, though, I was in the subway, where an empty Snapple bottle was rolling around to the great annoyance of everyone in the car. The bottle rolled back and forth, and I thought, “Someone should pick that up.” Then I thought—“Someone like me! Why shouldn’t I be the one to pick it up?” So I did. I was astonished by the surge of good feeling I got, quite disproportionate to such a minor action.

Since then, I’ve looked for chances to throw away other people’s trash. Newspapers strewn across seats in the airport, coffee cups abandoned on counters, that kind of thing. (Want more ideas? Look at these tips.)

“Do good, feel good” is a happiness truism that really is true. Act like a considerate citizen of the world, and you’ll also boost your self-esteem. How about you? Have you felt a boost in your feelings of self-worth after doing something worthwhile?

If you want to read more about this, check out Happier at Home, chapter 9. (Can't resist adding: New York Times bestseller.)

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4 Career Truths to Live By in 2013

4 Career Truths to Live By in 2013

Written by J.T. O'Donnell, originally posted on Linkedin.com Here)

Call them what you want: truths, beliefs, values, principals, laws, standards, etc. We all identify and embrace a set of them in our lives. We use them as our foundation for making choices and taking actions. They help us justify our decisions. The risky part of abiding by the truths we hold dear is they can become outdated or inaccurate over time. So, we must periodically re-evaluate their relevance. Or, suffer the consequences of making what we thought were good choices, only to see them produce poor results.
Career Truths for 2013

There are four things we believe so deeply at CAREEREALISM, we’re almost preachy about them. They are:

1. Every job is temporary.
2. You are not an employee; you are a business-of-one.
3. School teaches you everything, except how to get the job.
4. Nobody can job search alone.

These are the new career truths, don’t you agree? They might change in the future, but for now, they are our professional reality.

What career truths do you live by today?

I think many of us are adapting and changing our attitudes and beliefs about career success and satisfaction. We are shifting our perspective around job search and career development in order to stay employable and relevant in this new, unstable, fast-paced, global, digital, and aggressive economy.

Share your personal career truths below. I'd love to collaborate with all of you on an expansive set of “new rules” by which to manage our careers. I look forward to your comments!

P.S. First time reading my posts?

Nice to meet you! If you want to learn more about me and my work, I run this career site,CAREEREALISM, and this Job Search Accelerator Program (JSAP). Plus, to keep myself busy, I just launched this site for executives, C-Suite Insider.
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